Bullying occurs when someone or a group of people cause psychological or physical harm to another person, or damage their property, reputation or social acceptance, on more than one occasion. Bullying can take on many forms. Direct bullying involves physical aggression and verbal attacks. Indirect bullying is more subtle and can include actions such as exclusion and ignoring, spreading rumours, embarrassing and humiliating others.
It has also been reported to occur in internet chat rooms, and via email and text messaging – cyber-bullying. Children who are bullied experience real suffering which can affect their social, emotional and educational development.
New Anti-Harassment Laws will give legal protection for young people tormented by Bullying. The new legislations means young people under the age of 16 will be able to use sexual harassment laws to protect themselves.
How can I tell if my child is being bullied?
Does your child find excuses for not going to school, e.g. being sick?
Is your child tense, tearful and/or unhappy before or after school?
Does your child have unexplained bruises or scratches?
Is your child showing difficulties sleeping such as nightmares or bedwetting?
Does your child talk about not liking school or other children at school?
Have you noticed your child’s standard of school work declining?
Have you noticed a change in the usual behaviour pattern of your child?
Does your child have a lack of friends at school?
How can I tell if my child is bullying others?
Does your child talk about his/her peers in a negative or aggressive way?
Does your child have money, toys or other items that do not belong to him/her?
Does your child have difficulties getting along easily with others?
Is your child involved in a peer group that supports bullying behaviour?
What can I do if I am or someone I know being bullied?
There are many things you can do to deal with it and this includes trying to deal with it yourself, like ignoring the bully, hanging out with friends, and being confident.
If bullying does not stop, you should seek help. Talk to a friend, a family member, teacher or psychologist. Talking to someone will help you feel better.
Find out about your school anti-bullying policy. Not dough this has happened to many other people before and there will be a standard approach to addressed.
If it happens outside school – it can be useful to ask any witnesses to support you as you approach authority figures like bus drivers, police or similar.
It is important to deal with bullying immediately to reduce the likelihood of it reoccurring over a longer period of time.
How can the Quirky Kid Clinic help my child?
If you suspect your child may be experiencing bullying, or bullying others, please contact the Quirky Kid Clinic on (02) 9362 9297 to discuss the following options:
Individual counselling and therapy with one of our experienced Child Psychologists
“The Best of friends” and “Self Esteem” workshops for individuals and class groups
The Quirky Kid Clinic visited Year 2 at St Catherine’s School on Wednesday, 10th March to run the popular Best of Friends workshop in the classroom setting.
This 2-hour workshop covered areas such as Making Friends, Social Skills, Empathy, Compromise, and Peacemaking in friendships. Students participated in a range of activities including painting, play dough, role play, and multimedia presentations while discussing the finer points of friendship and playground issues.
Each child was given a “Quirky Kid Tool Kit” including materials for the day as well as an information sheet for parents on how they can help their child build social skills.
Kimberley O’Brien and Jacqui Olsson returned to the school on April 24th to present to parents and display the children achievements. We are very satisfied with parental and school feedback on the positive outcomes the workshop had achieved so far.
If you would like some information on The Best of Friends™ workshop for your child’s classroom, please contact us.
Presented by senior researchers from the UTS Health Psychology Unit, this lecture unravels the facts about cyber bullying. It debunks media stereotypes of perpetrators and victims, lays bare its costs to individuals and communities and offers practical pathways for solutions and healing.
Kimberley O’Brien, our principal child psychologist, discussed bullying with the presenters of the ‘7 pm project’ on Channel 10. You can find more information on bullying including practical strategies for parents by visiting our resources page or discussing it on our forum.
You can watch the segment below. Please wait until the end of the segment. The video contains advertising and some strong images.
The Quirky Kid clinic runs a great program called ‘The Best of Friends’™ that playfully address social issues within the school setting
If you have a story and would like to discuss it with us, please contact us to schedule a time. Kimberley O’Brien enjoys sharing the best of her therapeutic moments with the media. View our media appearances to-date.
Kimberley O’Brien, our principal child psychologist, attended the invitation-only National Cyberbullying Forum on Wednesday, 4th November 2009 as a consultant.
This event was hosted by the NSW Department of Education and Training and examined issues such as the prevalence of cyberbullying, the correlation between online and offline bullying and the shared characteristics of bullies and the people they bully, as well as hearing stories from students who have experienced cyberbullying first-hand. Keynote speakers included cyberbullying experts Professor Donna Cross and Dr. Marilyn Campbell, as well as a panel of experts from a range of media such as Girlfriend Magazine, Bebo.com, NineMSN and Telstra. The event was covered by Channel 10 News.
You can find more information about cyberbullying on our resources page.
If you think your child may be experiencing cyberbullying and you would like to make an appointment, please contact us.