Enconpresis in school aged children


Posted on by Leonardo Rocker (Quirky Kid Staff)

Understanding and Managing Encopresis in Children


Encopresis (or faecal soiling) is one of the most frustrating difficulties of middle childhood, affecting approximately 1.5% of young school children (von Gontard, 2013). It is a debilitating condition to deal with as a parent, as it usually occurs at a stage when children are past the age of toilet training.

Encopresis is a common complaint amongst parents who visit the Quirky Kid Clinic as it often occurs in the context of other behavioural issues such as oppositional defiant disorder (ODD) or separation anxiety.

According to the Diagnostic Statistical Manual (DSM-V) (American Psychiatric Association, 2013) encopresis (or otherwise known as Elimination Disorder) is essentially the repeated passing of stools into inappropriate places, after the age at which toilet training is expected to be accomplished. In order to receive this diagnosis, 4 features should be present:

  • Patients chronological age must be at least 4 years
  • A repeated passage of feces into inappropriate places, which is either intentional or involuntary.
  • At least one such event must occur every month for at least 3 months.
  • The behaviour is not attributed to the effects of substances (e.g., laxative) or any other medical condition.

There are two basic categories of encopresis i) primary encopresis-which refers to children who have never attained bowel control, ii) secondary encopresis-which refers to soiling after successfully attaining toilet control usually brought upon by entering a stressful environment (such as family conflict).

What causes encopresis?

Parents of children with encopresis often feel frustrated as they often believe that their children play an active role in controlling their bowel movements.  While in some cases, soiling may be intentional, in other cases it may be involuntary and beyond the child’s control. It is important to be aware of the many possible causes for this disorder.

  • Biological factors: Functional constipation (persistent constipation with incomplete defecation without evidence of a structural or biochemical explanation) is one of the main causes of encopresis, accounting for 90% of cases amongst children (Har & Croffle, 2010). Children may withhold stools often because he/she is constipated and therefore experiences pain when there is a bowel movement. Chronic withholding of bowel movements causes children to lose the ability to defecate normally, and causes partial bowel movements of which children are often unaware. Other medical causes such as spinal cord damage, celiac disease or damage to the bowel can result in encopresis. Medications may also lead to non-retentive fecal soiling. Tricyclic anti-depressants, narcotics, and iron are likely to cause constipation that is severe enough to lead to encopresis and laxative abuse can cause severe diarrhea and fecal incontinence.
  • Psychological factors: Overall 30-50% of children with encopresis have a comorbid emotional or behavioural disorder (von Gontard, 2012).  In a large population study, school aged children with encopresis had significantly increased rates of separation anxiety (4.3%), specific phobias (4.3%), generalized anxiety (3.4%), ADHD (9.2%) and oppositional defiant disorder (11.9%) (Joinson et al., 2006). Children who present with Oppositional Defiant Disorder or Conduct Disorder (that is, children who are intentionally defiant and non-compliant to their parents or caregivers) may use inappropriate soiling as a form of retaliation, as a means to communicate their anger, or as an attention seeking strategy. There is also evidence to suggest that children who have encopresis experience higher levels of  anxiety and depression as a result, and these symptoms can exacerbate the symptoms of encopresis. A population study by Cox et al., (2002) found that children with encopresis had more anxiety and depression symptoms, exceeding the clinical threshold by 20% compared to control children.
  • Family and social factors: Children may develop delays in toileting due to unsuccessful toilet training as a toddler and intrusive toilet training. It may have been that children recieved discipline for having accidents or have been encouraged into toilet training before they were ready. Negative toilet training practice can cause children to associate using the toilet with punishment. In other cases, encopresis occurs when there is a stressful family situation such as divorce, birth of a sibling or transition to a new school. In severe cases, frequent soiling may occur in a child who has had a traumatic or frightening experience such as a sexual or physical molestation.

What are the potential risk factors for Encopresis?

In western cultures, bowel control is established in 95% of children by age 4 in 99 % of children aged 5 (von Gontard, 2013). Around primary school age (10-12 years old) 1.5% of children develop encopresis. Although every case is different, studies have shown that there are a number of risk factors, which are associated with the development of encopresis including:

  • Gender: encopresis is five times more common in boys than girls.
  • Abuse and/or neglect.
  • Inadequate water intake.
  • Presence of chaos or unpredictability in a child’s life.
  • Lack of physical exercise or a diet that is rich is fat/ sugar.
  • Presence of neurological impairment such as brain damage, autism, developmental delay and intellectual disability.
  • History of constipation or defecation.

What is the impact of encopresis in school aged children?

Encopresis can have a severe effect on the child, family and school environment. Encopresis is often a family preoccupation, as parents and siblings become increasingly frustrated as family activities may be disrupted due to the constant soiling. The family is left fruitlessly battling over the child’s bowel control, and the conflicts may extend to other areas of the child’s life such as school functioning and social circles such as friends. When the child becomes increasingly aware of these difficulties, they may become angry, withdrawn, anxious and depressed and may be a victim of bullying if other peers become aware. Studies have shown that encopresis children experience a greater amount of anxiety and depression symptoms, difficulties with attention, more social problems, disruptive behaviours and lower levels of academic performance (Mosca & Schatz, 2014).

What are the treatment options for encopresis in school aged children?

While encopresis is a chronic and complex problem amongst many families, it is treatable. As a parent, it is important to be aware that there is no quick fix for encopresis, the process might take months and relapse is very common. Sixty-five percent of patients are almost completely cured in 6-months and 30% show improvement (Har & Coffle, 2010).  The majority of children with encopresis can be effectively treated with a combination of medical, psychological and dietary interventions.

  1. Medical treatments: The first step to treating encopresis is to identify the cause behind the condition and seek medical advice from a pediatrician or GP. Medical examinations are important in order to rule out the existence of organic causes. Initially a doctor may prescribe a laxative to ease the passage of the hardened stool through the rectum. Once the stool has passed, substances such as fiber, enemas or laxatives may be used to empty the colon and decrease painful bowel movements.
  2. Behavioural modification with the assistance of a Psychologist is an integral treatment component for encopresis . In order for this to be effective, family tension regarding the symptom should be reduced and a non-punitive atmosphere should be established. Parents should encourage their child to sit on the toilet for 10 minutes after meals 2-3 times a day. The initial aim is to produce a bowel movement by giving the child the chance to get used to using the toilet and to be in tune with bodily cues.  Parents can create a reward system, which provides incentives for the child to use the toilet. He/she may receive a star or sticker on a chart for each day he/she successfully goes to the toilet without soiling and a special reward could be earned after an 80% success rate during the week. A recent meta-analysis by Freeman, Riley, Duke & Fu (2014) found that behavioural intervention is the most effective treatment for encopresis.
  3. Treat other co-morbidities: Comorbid emotional and behavioural disorders should be treated separately according to evidence based recommendations (von Gontard, 2013). If your child is presenting with anxiety, depression, or oppositional defiant disorder, these associated co-morbidities should be treated concurrently to reduce symptoms of encopresis. Untreated co-morbid disorders will reduce adherence and compliance and the outcome of encopresis treatment will not be optimal.

Other tips include:

  • Never tease or embarrass your child and do not show anger. Supporting your child’s self-esteem is essential. Name calling and teasing are frequent results when a child soils at school/and/or smells of feces so it is important that their self esteem is not affected as a result. While it may seem like purposeful behaviour at times, it may not be within your child’s control (as in the case of functional encopresis).
  • Encourage your child to drink lots of water, eat fiber rich foods such as fruits, vegetables and whole grains
  • Consider scheduling evidence based psychological intervention if your child feels shame, guilt, depression or low self esteem related to encopresis.
  • If your child shows no improvement after 6 months they should be referred to a gastroenterologist for additional assessment.


American Psychiatric Association. 2013. Diagnostic and statistical manual of mental disorders (5th ed.). Arlington, VA: American Psychiatric Publishing.

Cox, D., Morris, J., Borowitz,S., & Sutphen, J. (2002). Psychological differences between children with and without chronic encopresis. Journal of Pediatric Psychology, 27,7, 585-591.

Freeman,K.A., Riley, A., Duke,D.C., & Fu, R. (2014). Systematic review and meta-analysis of behavioural interventions for fecal incontinence and constipation. Journal of Pediatric Psychology. 39, 8, 887-902.

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Mosca, N., & Schatz, M. (2014). Encopresis: Not just an accident. NASN School Nurse. 28,5,218-221.

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48 Responses to “Enconpresis in school aged children”

July 11, 2016 at 3:56 pm, Jude said:

this is great information. I wish my parents had this when I was suffering with encopresis!
thank you for putting this out there.


September 14, 2016 at 4:47 am, Coco said:

There’s a huge gap in research related to this topic, specifically in evidenced based treatment options for children who suffer encopresis as part of their neglect and abuse trauma.


September 14, 2016 at 7:24 am, Leonardo Rocker (Quirky Kid Staff) said:

Thank you for contributing Coco. I found this recent article by The Stanford Childre services, and I hope it is useful : http://www.stanfordchildrens.org/en/topic/default?id=encopresis-90-P01992


October 20, 2016 at 12:46 pm, Eve said:

My daughter is 10yo and has primary encopresis. We have seen many health professionals including a paediatric gastroenterologist. She is a gorgeous kid who has had to experience some horrible treatment protocols. Treatments that haven’t helped. I think when we finally stop returning to health professionals they think they have treated successfully, which us not the case.Her behaviour is more intense and difficult when her enco is bad but I think this is more connected to constipation or soiling than to a behaviour problem. We are desperate for help or even just support. This problem is so poorly understood. No one wants to talk about it.


November 22, 2016 at 9:58 am, Kryssy said:

Hi Eve, may I suggest a book I read recently called What’s Eating Your Child, by Kelly Dorfman. Obviously I don’t know your story but there is information in this book that may help you. Best wishes!


December 16, 2016 at 1:00 am, Leonardo Rocker (Quirky Kid Staff) said:

Thank you for your recommendation, Kryssy.


March 13, 2017 at 7:44 am, Mary said:

Hi Eve,

My son also suffered from encopresis. Please consider looking at Dr. Daum’s website for more information. He can help your child and your family through this trying circumstance! His program proves is very successful and he treats children worldwide. You won’t be disappointed! drdaum.com


March 19, 2017 at 10:16 pm, lori said:

Hi Eve
I just came upon this website and your comment and wanted to reach out because I am in a similar situation with my pre-teen. I would love to discuss with you, not because I have answers, more because I have never met any other parent who deals with this. I could use a support system.

Is there a way to get in touch with you?


January 15, 2017 at 11:38 am, Janeva L Hatcher said:

I have a greatgrandchild suffering fron encopreses but he also has dushene muscular dystrophy. Could this be causing his frequent eposodes.


January 18, 2017 at 4:12 am, Leonardo Rocker (Quirky Kid Staff) said:

Dear Janeva,

Thank you for posting a comment. So we can provide you with the best advice, please contact our intake team at support[at]quirkykid.com.au. Unfortunately we’re not able to provide advice via comments and would need more details about your greatgrandchild’s presentation.


February 26, 2017 at 2:14 pm, joanna said:

what is best plan to keep feces from dropping out of 9 year olds pants. its not only a health issue for all in class its a disruption to all and causes confrontation. i think being told there is nothing we can do to prevent spillage droppings is unacceptable. please help


March 08, 2017 at 3:50 am, Jean said:

When my son was a boy in grade school, for a period of time he was coming home with a load in his pants! This went on for a while, maybe a year, I don’t remember. At the time I thought it was a terrible thing but I guess I just thought it would go away which it did. I can’t remember if I spoke to his doctor about it. My son at the time did have diagnoses of ADHD (Inattentive type) and generalized anxiety. Today his diagnosis is paranoid schizophrenia! My son had a wonderful childhood, with loving parents and a large and happy extended family. If there was any sort of abuse of any kind 🙁 I am unaware of it….This is so sad. I came across this site in my endless quest for knowledge and understanding. There is a hereditary gene for Sz in my family. Just wanted to put this out there. I don’t know if the information I’ve disclosed might be of some help to someone.


March 28, 2017 at 2:29 am, Martin said:

My girlfriend’s 12 year old daughter soils her underwear at school at least 2 times a week and it’s like she doesn’t care at all. I pick her up after school most days and although she never smells horrible it’s still obvious she has done it. She has told me the only place she likes going to the toilet is at home because she is afraid of the toilets at school or out places, yet when I ask her why she can’t explain herself. If I had things to do in the afternoon we used to go home first but I don’t bother anymore because she would just change her outer clothing but keep wearing the same underwear, then lie to my face if I asked her about it.

Her mother makes her wash her own underwear but it’s made no difference and has actually made it worse. She has tried a lot of different things but nothing worked and it seems as if she has now given up trying. When I suggested therapy she immediately rejected the idea, claiming it wouldn’t make any difference but I believe it at least worth a try. The last time we discussed it we ended up in an argument so I have no idea how to convince her therapy is at least worth a try.


October 14, 2017 at 6:37 pm, JP said:

I soiled my underpants as a kid – from 7-9 years old maybe younger. I used to hide the evidence – by burying, or cleaning them myself. I’m nearly 50 and still have some symptoms. For me I’m certain the explanation was ADHD – although there was undoubtedly some anxiety present too resulting from family issues and bullying. Basically I get hyperfocussed on an exciting task and ignore my body whilst in this state. I don’t eat or sleep – and only go to the loo when it hurts, or when I’m literally about to poop myself. Sometimes I’m too late ?


February 21, 2018 at 2:35 am, TM said:

My 10 yr old grand daughter has encompresis. She has had so much trauma in her young life and still has so much stress. She is not allowed to have ANY sugar, eats low carbs and pwstvhed protein. Her step mom puts diapers on her when she has her attacks. To me that is child abuse! I also believe she is sexually abused. Her bio Mom passed away when she was 2! Any advice wouid be greatly appreciated.
Thank you


April 07, 2018 at 3:58 am, Heather said:

My 9 year old is having issues where he constantly soils himself, we have found that it is not a behavioral problem, he is on the spectrum but higher functioning. He was diagnosed with brain damage in his frontal lobe. We also know the soiling issues aren’t because of constipation, his bowels ate never hard or formed, its always mushy. We have done the cleansing and used laxitives to clean his system out, it made it worse!. We don’t know what to do, its been going on for 2 years


July 14, 2018 at 5:07 pm, Brenda said:

I just googled why my toddler poop his pants and discovered all this information in this website. My God what I am going to do. Obviously I am the worst mom. I took him to therapy since I noticed the behavior. I called 911 when I had suicidal thoughts. Since his dad made me feel that way I begged him to come and pick him up he was 3 I didn’t want him to see me crying cause his dad just got out of jail and told me that he was going to twist the truth and he was the one with all the scratches in the face because he was choking me. So I told him I am calling 911 if you won’t come and pick him up. So I did after begging his dad I requested a n ambulance and CPS. I lost my son after being seeing by CPS for 5 minutes. My baby was picked up by the cops. When I got to see my baby he didn’t want me to touch him. And now his 5 years old and still poop himself. Since last November I got custody and inmediatly his father and Nanny lost the benefit of even talk to him or even me or I go to jail! The therapist told me that he has big issues but he’s working on it. She said because I am bipolar he might need meds. So according to her nurse that works with kid’s he needs melatonin and he doesn’t need meds because he poop himself on purpose. Wow I believe I was taking my son to a therapist but why I never new the name of the condition. Why she played UNO cards or Jenga block game and I even made a journal of the poop like she requested in summary he can poop 4 times per day quarter size balls. And a big load big ball. He is addicted to milk since he got a ritovirus when he was 2. He may eat with strange people like school but mostly with me he won’t and 75%of the time with his dad and Nanny he drinks milk. I have done everything and nothing works. I will see the suggestions and follow them. Thanks


September 05, 2018 at 9:53 am, KT said:

Looking for any possible assistance. I am a teacher of a child with encopresis and it has been eye opening. I am dealing with an incredibly foul stench of feces in my classroom all day and even with frequent (discrete) reminders to go use the restroom and check yourself…the situation has only become worse. Admin is slowly getting involved but what are possible treatment options. I understand the psychological impacts but I am suffering with students that do not want to sit by him, work with him etc. Please help with any suggestions as to how to make this a better classroom environment for all.


September 08, 2018 at 8:15 pm, martin said:

I probably know exactly how the boy feels because I regularly pooped my underwear at school and not just primary school, high school as well. Instead of dealing with it my parents chose to ignore it and so did the teachers, which wasn’t the best approach for me or the other students. I tried to stop from time to time but neither the teachers or my parents seemed to care so I eventually gave up. I just thought it was something I was always going to do it and that made the situation worse.

That must have been hell for the other students because I could often smell myself so they defiantly must have as well. It wasn’t until a new teacher helped me work through my problems but I was well into high school by then and had just started puberty


September 23, 2018 at 12:52 pm, Ben said:

I used to suffer from the hell of encopresis as a child and I suspect that it was caused by extreme anxiety and stress associated with starting school as a young child. If anyone wants to talk about it with me reply to to this message and I’ll share what I can.


October 14, 2018 at 8:58 am, Jenny said:

My daughter had this for three years (4-7) and she has been symptom free for three months now, pooping once every night. I had tried everything- doctors, therapy, gastroenterologist etc. she was never abused and was in every other way a completely happy little girl. But she had never had a normal BM and had to wear pull-ups or maxi pads because of soiling. I found a Wake Forest University professor on-line who proposed nightly enemas. He has a program, but I did not join. I was tired of throwing away money on solutions that did not work. Anyways, I read everything I could and then started. one adult dulcolax stool softener every three days, a full water bottle every day, and a child’s enema every night. We did this for three weeks. Then we cut back on the enemas bus made her sit and try to poop every night. Sometimes she could on her own, so no enema, other times she needs the enema. At first she was scared of them, but with her dad up at her face end talking to her and me doin the other, we got through it. The enemas did not bother her at all after the second day. They don’t hurt and she sa how they made her poop. She has not needed an enema in several months now, but I always make sure she poops each evening and I have some on call just in case. I am only emailing because I know how insidious this problem is, and if this post helps even one mom it is worth it. Good luck!


December 20, 2018 at 1:17 am, Brooke said:

I always knew there was a problem, but it’s been getting much worse in my 12 year old. Pediatricians only suggest miralax, which to be honest doesn’t work. Was looking at something else the other day and came across encopresis and it was like a giant light bulb went off! I can’t even remember the last time she had unsoiled underwear. So glad I finally found something that explains it so well (this site and others) and I can finally find her the relief she needs. Going to make a pediatric GI appointment this week. Any other resources you guys have found or tips/tricks? She’s a bit defiant, will eventually come around after enough nagging to do even the simplest of tasks. Has been in special ed since she was 3, with undiagnosed learning and speech problems that they just continue to keep her in the system. She’ll go to middle school next year and I’m anticipating she will still need extra help but I’m hoping once we get this under control it will free up some of the room in her head. Thanks so much for the information in here, it’s been useful!


January 08, 2019 at 11:56 pm, Martin said:

Hi Brooke,

I didn’t have much of a problem keeping my underwear clean but when I was 11 something in my body changed. By the time I was 12 I would go home from school with soiled underwear just about every day and not just a little. My way of dealing with it was to deny it and pretend nothing was wrong no matter how much I had done. I think that made the teachers and my parents think I was doing it on purpose, so they just seemed to give up. That continued through high school but I eventually began to would out what was going on.


January 19, 2019 at 5:34 am, Angela Ellis said:

Replying in the hope of speaking with some of those who suffered with encoporesis as a child.
Been trying to help my son with this for 5 + years.
Looking for advice from someone who has been there to help me have more understanding.

I wish there was a continence aid that was not a nappy to help these children.
I keep wondering why health professionals insist he be in underwear when he is clearly not continent.
Does anyone know of anything to help catch the accidents to make it easier for him to deal with when at school?
I have this week asked him to wear nappies because I cannot handle the mess he leaves everywhere anymore, but school starts next week…
I can’t send a year 4 student to school in nappies.
I can see he feels it’s futile to try because he’s had this issue for so long and all the interventions have not worked.
I keep thinking if there was a better way for him to manage the accidents he may feel less shame around it.
We don’t ask babies or elderly who are incontinent to keep trying, just wear underwear… we provide continence aids to help them avoid embarrassment.

I’ve finally accepted that this problem is not going away, I cannot fix it, I have to wait for him to “grow out of it”. But surely there is a better way to manage the problem?


February 07, 2019 at 3:41 am, Martin said:

Hi Angela,
You could try underwear liners or pads that are designed for soiling accidents.
My mother wanted to wear nappies to school, but I thought that was a horrible idea and refused. She then made me start wash my own underwear, which for me was the better choice. Although I couldn’t have explained it at the time I am sure one of the reasons I did it was a phobia of using the toilet cubicles at school. I must have suppressed my phobia quite deeply because i just did it in my underwear, so I didn’t have to worry about going into the cubicles.

It wasn’t until I started high school that I began to realize how overpowering my fear was. My first day of high school was filled with confidence until I opened the door of a cubicle. Instead of just going in and I made the conscious decision to just do it in my underwear.


February 12, 2019 at 5:25 pm, Neema said:

My 9 years old son is going through the same, we have started to push him poop every morning and evening daily. he is doing great. No soiling pants for two weeks now


March 15, 2019 at 9:36 am, Danielle said:

We’re dealing with encopresis in our 8 year old son. The most encouraging resource we’ve found so far is Dr.Steve Hodges, a pediatric urologist in the U.S. We bought his book, It’s No Accident, and started our son on daily laxatives and scheduled toilet sits. That worked, sort of, but we travel a lot and he would get blocked up again. Dr. Hodges now has a newer book and website, The M.O.P. Book, where he says he has found that most cases of encopresis and nighttime wetting require a more extreme treatment than just laxatives: namely, daily enemas. Our son is really resisting this so far but we’ve read of many cases of success and we are persevering. If nothing else, the MOP website offers a parent support page for people going through the same thing!


April 23, 2019 at 11:18 pm, Frank said:

Interoception is a word missing from this page. Our son had soiling incidents but apparently is unable to sense when a poo is coming. When sitting on toilet he replies “no” when asked if anything was produced, when in fact the answer is yes. Bedwetting also occurs frequently although daytimes are usually OK for urine.
Any ideas on how to learn to interpret body signals?


April 26, 2019 at 12:23 am, Brandy said:

My son is 9 years old and we have dealt with encorpesis with him for about 5 years now. We have seen a GI dr, hes been to therapy, he has severe generalized anxiety. We have been on miralax, lactolose, milk of magnesia and done several clean outs. Hes had a colonoscopy, barium enema, and more. We have our son on a 504 plan at school bc we have had issues with the school before and now the school as asked us to come in for a meeting about my son saying his accidents at school are now a health hazard. I am at my wits end on this. We drink plenty of water have started doing fresh fruit smoothies and substituted reg milk with almond milk. I did at first as he got older become alil more harsh with him bc he would refuse to go to bathroom when told or something. Ive tried again to be more peaceful and stuff but i feel were still not where we need to be. I just want my son happy and healthy. And i know with all of this its not happening for him. Plz someone give help thanks


September 10, 2019 at 1:21 am, Jason said:

Now that I’m older and understand bodily functions I realized the reason I had so many accidents during primary and the first two years of high school was constipation from withholding the need to go. Like a lot of kids, I was always constipation but avoiding using the toilets at school made it much worse. When I tried go at home the logs were so big it hurt, but I also realized letting it come out by itself didn’t. The problem with that was it was almost always during class or while I was out doing something on the weekend. My parents just thought I was lazy or doing it on purpose and I believed my body was different to everyone else. My logs were always big and very firm and without much odor, so I usually just kept wearing my underwear until I got home. The only time I changed them at school or during the day on weekends was if a teacher or someone said something but that hardly ever happened. Either they didn’t know or didn’t want to say anything. That didn’t help my situation worse my convincing my parents I was doing it on purpose.


November 07, 2019 at 12:41 am, Lynn Harper said:

My 10 yr old Grandson will NOT go poop in the toilet! We are starting to worry that he never will and it is getting harder for Grandma to clean him and I am worried as to how he will handle puberty. He plays videos when he gets home and if he has to go, he will go in anything he has on!!! He is ADHD and has anxiety. I feel so bad for him!


January 27, 2020 at 5:06 am, Helen Jefferson said:

My niece has a son who is 9yrs old he has messed in his pants then he smeers it …on the toilet seat on the walls she finds little balls if poop in many places he poops in his pants and he just sits in it he does say anything.please can anyone give us suggestions or lead us to where she can take him for help PLEASE PLEASE HELP


January 27, 2020 at 4:40 pm, Sja said:

My 8 year old son has been going to constipation since the day he was born doctors specialists constantly would use stuff to make him poop or laxative or mirlax and honestly if made him worst he poops on himself anywhere and everywhere and I feel so bad and I feel like I’m such a.m bad mom because I have done everything nothing works I don’t know what’s wrong with him it breaks my heart because he’s staying to get sad and notices he says he can’t control it I can’t take him out much bc of all the accidents he has please someone give any tips or Anything


January 30, 2020 at 12:34 pm, Doneice Mitchell said:

I am so sorry that you are going through this.
I have a 9 year old daughter that has been having the same issues since she was 8 months old. We have been to a GI and several different pediatricians, but we have not yet found an answer! We have been told to do clean outs, administer Miralax, and Ex lax chews and all this does is cause her to soil herself even more! My heart goes out to her because she has been to counseling as well. You are not alone, and while I didn’t offer any solutions, it makes me feel a little better that I’m not the only one going through this. I’m not sure if you are religious or spiritual, but I send prayers for both of our children to be free from this horrible issue! Much love.


February 07, 2020 at 8:47 am, Amanda said:

There is an 11 year old boy in my son’s class at school that is having accidents 3-5 times a week. This has been going on for at least the past 3 years that I know of. My heart breaks for this kid because no one will help him and I’ve been told there’s nothing I can do. I’ve talked to teachers, the principal, nurse, guidance counselor and no one seems to be able to help. Everyone apparently just has to deal with it. I do not know his home situation. I do know that this has to be affecting not only this kid but all the kids in the classroom. My son said sometimes it’s so bad that they have to put his desk out in the hall because it smells so bad. And I feel like I’m stuck and can’t help in any way.


April 14, 2020 at 1:47 am, Jason said:

Hi Amanda,

He might be doing it on purpose and will just stop doing it by himself. I started doing in on purpose when I was 11 of 12 and did it throughout high school. There were times teachers talked to me about it but that was all, so I was allowed to do it, which was quite a lot. That made me think I was good at keeping it secret, but I am sure that probably wasn’t the case at all. As strange as it sounds, I liked how it felt in my underwear and often spent most of the day that way. It wasn’t until I started an apprentice that I realized I was under a bit of an illusion.


April 21, 2020 at 1:44 am, Kathy said:

I have a grandchild who has been. Diagnosed with encopresis . He is 6 years old . We were told different things to try and I swear we were ar our wits end. He has constipation since he was born. We used Mira lax to try and keep him regular but sometimes he would get diarhea . His mom said trying prunes well he can’t eat the prunes. But he likes prune juice . That has him pretty regular but you have to watch and if he gets plugged up give them miralax a few times. Now he is going normal. The question is what now. The Coronavirus is a horrible illness. He is home now our schools are closed. I came up with an idea to train him. During the day when he got here l would take his under shorts off and set
Him on one of my wooden chairs with a towel . It took about 1 month so far but it has been quite an experience but he is actually going in a going on his own. He is back to regular clothes and I am praying every night that he is cured. I don’t know if it will work for anyone else but it is something to try.


June 01, 2020 at 11:00 pm, Jason said:

I was almost 13 by the time I finally stopped pooping my pants. I was always extremally constipated and avoided using the toilets at school or when I was out somewhere. When I tried to go at home nothing happened, or it hurt too much, so I usually just ignored what my body was telling me. If I didn’t take the opportunity to go to the toilet it seemed like my body worked against me. The problem with that was those opportunities almost always seemed to be during class or while I was out doing something on the weekend. I was also extremely shy so putting my hand up and asking to go to the toilet was far to embarrassing. Letting it come out in my underwear when it wanted to worked because it didn’t hurt, so that became normal. The anxiety of starting high school seemed to make my constipation even worse and I spent most of the first day with a load in my underwear. That just increased my believe my body was different and doing it in my underwear was normal for me.

My parents thought I was lazy or doing it on purpose and going to great lengths to hide it only confirmed their belief. I got quite good at keeping it secret and that became a challenge for me, rather than admitting there was a problem. Going unnoticed at school or out places on the weekend made me feel like I was in control of my situation, but it also made it a lot worse. By the time I started high school I was doing it almost daily. My logs were always big and very firm and without much odor, so I usually just kept wearing my underwear until I got home. It also meant there was only one a day to deal with. The only time I changed was if a teacher or someone said something but that hardly ever happened. All that made my parents and teachers sure I was doing it on purpose. It wasn’t until a teacher decided to make me her challenge that I finally began to change.


June 21, 2020 at 3:44 pm, Fay Mclean said:

Hi Jason, please tell me how that teacher helped??? We are in a similar situation with a teen in our care and want to help.


July 09, 2020 at 5:09 am, Holly said:

I think my 9 year old son has this condition. I feel terrible now I’ve been accusing him of being lazy! His accidents often seem to happen when he’s playing on his xbox or similar. I will be changing my behaviour 🙁
He also has dyspraxia, and I wonder if there’s any known links between these conditions?


July 22, 2020 at 1:50 am, Jason said:

Hi Fay
At the time it was going on I don’t think I could have given an answer as to why I was doing it. I never admitted to being constipated and thought it was just normal for my body. That probably just confirmed my parent’s belief I was lazy or doing it on purpose. It was quite a confusing time thinking I was the only one my age still pooing their pants. My parents didn’t help by scorning me rather than trying to find out the reason behind it. That just made me find way of hiding my problem and I became quite good at that. By the time I started high school I was doing it almost daily, yet I don’t think my parents had any idea. I did try to explain it to my parents but nothing I said seemed to change their minds. Not being able to explain it properly also didn’t help.

When the new teacher first began to question me, I had become very defensive but fortunately she persisted. She seemed to know what I was going through and her admission she knew by person experience made me feel a lot better about myself. Not only was someone finally listening to me I wasn’t the only one and made me feel amazing. She told me it had happened to her until around the same age and that there where solutions. Knowing that made me feel fantastic but when she tried to explain it to my mother, she quickly realized that was a waste of time. That was quite upsetting for me but fortunately for me she was very persistent, and determined my underwear were going to stay clean all day. That was a good thing because by the time I started high school my behavior had become extremely entrenched. It took quite a lot of persistence from the teacher and myself and I still clearly remember the I got through a week without soiling my underwear. Her rewards were questionable, but one thing is for sure she made me determined my underwear were going to stay clean.


August 12, 2020 at 10:36 pm, Matias said:

It would have been nice to meet somebody that have lived the same condition when I was a child. I think that persevering support is fundamental. In my case mom an dad gave up, so did I. It took me a long long time to overcome encopresis. I was afraid to make friends, meet new people, go to places. I lie in order to pretend to be normal. I didn’t care for myself. I used to think that my family would be better if I run away from home. Then I got ill, it helped me realize that I was all on my own, it was my body my pain to take. I was alone, it took me 45 min to end 14 years of enco. When I was done not only felt pain nor sorrow, I felt something, I felt relief. It was the best sensation. It is nowadays. I was lucky.

Please, support your child. Don’t give up.


August 27, 2020 at 9:07 pm, Jason said:

Hi Matias,

Like you everyone else had given up, including me. Instead of trying to stop I started finding ways of hiding it and got quite good at it. Keeping it secret became my challenge and made me feel like I was the one in control of my situation and body. From the outside it must have appeared like I was doing it intentionally, but the teacher knew what was really going on. Once I realized she was on my side I began to get the confidence I could change. Without her perseverance and support I probably would have kept doing it for years.

The day she confessed to having the same problem at my age and sometimes still did made me feel a lot better. It also made me feel like I wasn’t alone, and someone finally knew how I felt. For a while I had doubts, she was telling the truth but that changed one day after class when she showed me what she had done in her underwear. She then made a challenge for both of us to keep our underwear clean for as long as possible. Each day after school we checked each other to see how the challenge was going and I failed a lot for a while. Like I said before her rewards where rather questionable, but it did result in me finally changing.


February 16, 2021 at 8:18 pm, Brad said:

Between the ages of 6 and 12 I had an issue with encopresis I was also born prematurely, had ADHD and wet the bed until I was 14. I was potty trained for wetting myself in the daytime.
I don’t ever remember pooping my pants at school, although there was a point in time, when I was 7 years old that my parents made me wear (at the time I was very small) huggies training pants to school, and got away with it without any teasing.
Also when I was 8 yrs old my parents took me to the doctor, and he told my mother to put me back into pull-ups. When I would get home after school I would change from my underwear to a huggies training pants or pampers underjams. It was like for until I was 9½.
I did not wear pull-ups during the day again until I was 11yrs old. My father told me that if I keep pooping my underwear he’ll put me back in into pull-ups. I couldn’t, so he went and bought a case of depends adult diapers with tabs. They stuck up the back of my jeans about 4 inches it was summer vacation at the time so none of my friends even knew about it.
Now I’m about 18 and don’t have any issues with bed wetting or encopresis anymore. For me I think I just out grew it.


May 28, 2021 at 8:58 am, FrustratedMom said:

My son is 10. He is adopted and was 4 years old when he first came to live with us. Soiling started a few months after he came to stay with us and 6 years later after having tried seeing pediatricians, counselors, gastroenterologists, and reading books and websites to try to figure this thing out he still is having frequent accidents. We’ve tried so many things and most are helpful short term but long term the soiling just keeps coming back. He does have ADHD but is very smart and makes mostly A’s in school. It’s hard to understand why such a smart child can just poop his pants everyday. We have tried every type of laxative on the market (GI had him on Miralax for about 3 years straight), reward sticker charts, pelvic floor physical therapy. He has a history of abuse and neglect and since I didn’t have him before age four I’m not sure if he was ever properly potty trained. I sure do love my son but encopetéis is very hard and the frustration has gotten the best of me and my husband a few times. This is my first time seeing this website. Thanks to anyone who has any advice for us.


June 12, 2021 at 12:17 am, Jason said:

Hi FrustratedMum,

I think my mother’s solution was to deny there was a problem. She made me do my own washing and gave me medication that virtually eliminated the odor. That worked well at hiding what I was doing but defiantly prolonged it. Like I said in a previous story I was still doing it well into high school. With no one trying to help me stop I made it my mission to keep it secret. That gave me feel like I was in control of my situation and became my primary focus.

Keep trying to work on the issue with him and don’t give up. Have you considered he might be doing it because he likes how it feel?


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