How to be a Friend: A Guide to Making and Keeping Them
We are very proud to launch our newest therapeutic resource written and illustrated by Mark Brown and Laurie Krasny Brown -the acclaimed creators of Arthur.How to Be a Friendis the perfect prop for parents and professionals working with children to build social confidence and explore playground politics.
The book offers practical suggestions for making and keeping friends, resolving arguments, overcoming shyness, dealing with bossy children, handling bullies and more.
How to Be a Friend is easy-to-read and provides children with many fun examples and illustrations of how to be a good friend. The book was published to support our social skills program ‘The Best of Friends’. For more information on this program, click on the link.
You will find out:
– Who can be your friends – How to show someone you would like to be friends – How to handle bossy kids and bullies too – The best ways to be a friend and ways NOT to be a friend – Ways to settle an argument with a friend
This high quality Australian Edition has been produced on a Hard Cover with 33 uncoated and illustrated pages
Kimberley O’Brien, our principal child psychologist, discussed the issues around adolescents working or not working ABC radio presenter Deb Cameron. You can listen to the interview ABC Sydney websiteYou can find useful, practical and informative advice about parenting and young people by visiting our resources page, – or discussing it on our forum.
If you have a story and would like to discuss it with us, please contact us to schedule a time.
Kimberley O’Brien enjoys sharing the best of her therapeutic moments with the media. View our media appearances to-date
Recently , the Quirky Kid Clinic worked with school staff from Year 2 and Year 4 at St Thomas School in Sydney to facilitate the popular The Best of Friends workshop™ in the classroom setting.
This was 2-hour workshop for year 2 students was followed by a 8 weeks small group program and covered areas such as Making Friends, Social Skills, Empathy, Compromise, and Peacemaking in friendships. Students participated in a range of activities including painting, play dough, role play, and multimedia presentations while discussing the finer points of friendship and playground issues.
Each child was given a “Quirky Kid Tool Kit” including materials for the day as well as an information sheet for parents on how they can help their child build social skills.
Kimberley O’Brien returned to the school to complement the workshop with a teachers feedback and training as well as to present to parents and display the children achievements.
We are very satisfied with parental and school feedback on the positive outcomes the workshop had achieved so far. Parents where actively engaged in the program with pre and post surveys. This has helped to ensure we parent concerns were addressed.
St Thomas’ Principal and Teaching staff were incredible supportive and showed great commitment toward students social development.
If you would like some information on The Best of Friends™ workshop for your child’s classroom, please contact us.
Kimberley O’Brien, our principal child psychologist, discussed the best ways to raise confident happy kids with ABC Nightlife Radio Presenter, Tony Delroy. You can find useful, practical and informative advice about parenting by visiting our resources page or discussing it on our forum.
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Social skills is a common concern among parents. Often children can have difficulties in making and keeping friends. They may be left out of games at lunch, not get invited to other children’s houses or may even be teased by some children.
An important aspect of maintaining friendships is social skills.
Social skills are specific behaviours such as smiling, making eye contact, asking and responding to questions, and giving and acknowledging compliments during a social exchange. These behaviours result in positive social interactions and have been linked to positive developmental outcomes, including peer acceptance.
How can I tell if my child is having difficulties with social skills?
Little use of eye contact,
Uninterested in social interactions,
Difficulties initiating social interactions,
Difficulties interpreting verbal and non-verbal social cues,
Inappropriate emotional response,
Lack of empathy towards others.
It can be upsetting for parents to realise that their children are having difficulties making friends. Research has shown however, that social skills can be effectively taught to children.
How to encourage your child to develop social skills
Help your child make friends by organising play dates, having sleepover and joining clubs.
Offer suggestions on ways to handle situations at school and with friends.
Children learn a lot by observing how adults interact so it is important to always model appropriate behaviour, such as greeting shop assistants and using Peoples names when possible.
Help your child to understand different points of view by describing feelings and having conversations about how other people might feel. This can help your child to develop empathy and will help them deal with conflict when it occurs.
Help develop conversation skills such as asking questions and listening to others
Discuss behaviours such as teasing and bullying with your child, to help them understand that some comments could upset others.
How can the Quirky Kid Clinic help your child?
The Quirky Kid Clinic is a unique place for children and adolescents aged 2-18 years. We work from the child’s perspective to help them find their own solutions. Additionally, we offer a variety of resources, workshops and individualized consultations to support children experiencing difficulties with social skills.
The Best of Friends Workshop TMis an innovative social skills and communicationprogram for children aged 3 to 13. This activity-based workshop encourages children to make the most of their friendships by developing good communication skills. Workshops are available throughout t the year both in school and clinic setting.
How to be a Friend Book – This book published by Quirky Kid helps children to understand how friendships are formed and the best way to handle conflict. It is a must for all children and proactive parents.
Face it Cards are a set of 35 hand-draw facial expression cards. The cards give greater meaning to discussions involving feelings and behaviors. They can help families resolve conflict and classmates explore social scenarios or ethical dilemmas and also allow children to ‘pointing out’ their emotions, helping then to increase understanding, problem-solving and empathy when dialogue is difficult.
Tell Me a Story Cardsare a useful tool for parents and professionals working with young people. They invite children to recall and retell their own memorable moments of extremity, this facilitates communication, highlights strengths, and boosts self-esteem.
—- Information for this fact sheet was taken from an interview with Child Psychologist Kimberley O’Brien, the Raising Children Network website, and the following articles and was compiled by Corina Vogler, Interm-Psychologist at the Quirky Kid Clinic
Reference: Tse, J., Strulovitch, J., Tagalakis, V., Meng, L., & Fombonne, E. (2007). Social skills training for adolescents with asperger syndrome and high functioning autism. Journal of Autism and Developmental Disorders, 37, 1960-1968.
Rao, P., Beidel, D., & Murray, M. (2008). Social skills training for children with Aspergers’s syndrome or high-functioning autism: a review and recommendations. Journal of Autism and Developmental Disorders, 38, 353-361.