Tag: Adolescent Parenting

Parenting Gay Children

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Posted on by Leonardo Rocker (Quirky Kid Staff)

Some parents may find it very difficult to discover their child is homosexual. Common reactions  on learning that your child is homosexual include shock, disbelief, disappointment, sorrow, guilt and confusion.

Furthermore, parents also may also  feel as though they have done something wrong, that their way of parenting was inappropriate or that they have failed in some way.  Some feel embarrassed about other people finding out, or worried about how others will react.

On the other hand, parents may feel joy, proud and contentment with  the good communication with the family.

Below are answers to common questions we are asked about  parenting gay children:

Why did my child choose to be gay?

  • Being gay is not a simply a choice. Sexual orientation comes from within a person, and is part of a person’s whole being. It is not caused by anything parents have done, and can’t be changed by anything parents do. The choice your child has made to come out means that he is ready to accept who he is and live happily.

Is it a phase?

  • It is a normal part of development for a child or teenager to feel unsure about their sexuality. However, if your child tells you he or she is gay, then he or she  is usually sure that is how he or  she is. When they  tell you ‘I am sure’, they  need you to believe and support them.

Why didn’t our child tell us earlier?

  • For a child to tell his parent that he is gay takes great courage. He may feel worried about hurting you or feeling guilty about you losing some of your dreams, such as natural grandchildren. The main reason young people withhold this information for so long is  fear of rejection by parents, or other family and friends. The longer it takes to come out, the more this fear grows.

Is my child different now?

  • Your child has not changed just because she has told you about her sexuality. There are many parts to your child that you know and love that have not changed, such as what she does, what she likes, and the many things that make up the person that she is.

Coming to terms with these changes

  • Whatever your response is, you will be grieving in some way because every change involves some loss (as well as some gain).
  • You might find it helpful to talk it over with people who understand what you are going through.
  • Coming to grips with this information and accepting it takes time and there are no hard and fast rules as to how long it will take. It is different for everyone and there is no one right way.

The number one thing is to make sure that your kids are safe and accepted no matter what they do – it’s that unconditional love that they need.  Try not to become too attached to the future in terms of the fulfilment of your own hopes and dreams.  Be supportive of the individual choices your children make, and just see what happens.

The Quirky Kid Clinic can help parents and families with communication strategies as well as dealing with common issues that may  arise when a family member communicates his sexuality.   For more information, book to our ‘Sort it out’ workshop or please contact us for more information or to schedule an appointment.

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Communicating with Adolescents @ Radio 4BC

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Posted on by Leonardo Rocker (Quirky Kid Staff)

Kimberley O’Brien, our principal child psychologist, discussed strategies for communicating with your adolescent son with Peter Dick from Brisbane’s Radio 4BC. You can find more information on how to have a healthy relationship and facilitate conversation with your teenager by visiting our resources page or discussing it on our forum.

Listen to the story below.

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If you have a story and would like to discuss it with us, please contact us to schedule a time. Kimberley O’Brien enjoys sharing the best of her therapeutic moments with the media. View our media appearances to-date.

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Drug test @ News.com.au

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Kimberley discussed the new portable drug test, hairconfirm with reporter Staff Writers from News.com.au. You can find out more information about trust, adolescent behaviour, drug testing, responsibility and adolescents parenting tips by visiting our resources page or discussing it on our forum.

The full interview is available on the Nine msn News website.

If you have a story and would like to discuss it with us, please schedule a time. Kimberley O’Brien enjoys sharing the best of her therapeutic moments with the media.

Visit our website for more information about our quirky kid clinic. For enjoying unbelievable offers and discounts on our therapeutic resources, visit our shop page.

Drug Testing @ ABC Cost

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Posted on by Leonardo Rocker (Quirky Kid Staff)

Kimberley O’Brien discussed the new portable drug test, hairconfirm with Presenter Trevor Jackson from ABC FM’s Drive.  They were interested in looking at how this might affect the relationship between a parent and their teen in terms of trust, ability to push the boundaries etc.

You can find out more information about trust, adolescent behaviour, drug testing, responsibility and adolescents parenting tips by visiting our resources page or discussing it on our forum.

The full interview is available on the ABC website

If you have a story and would like to discuss it with us, please schedule a time. Kimberley O’Brien enjoys sharing the best of her therapeutic moments with the media.

YWCA Mentor’s Breakfast

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Posted on by Leonardo Rocker (Quirky Kid Staff)

Kimberley O’Brien, our principal child psychologist, was a guest speaker at the YWCA Mentor’s breakfast on Wednesday, 8th July 2009.

Kimberley addressed the mentors about the positive impact mentoring has on children and young people’s lives, and how they are making a positive difference by volunteering their time and energy.

YWCA’S Big Brothers Big Sisters Program is a nationally accredited program.

Through YWCA’s Big Brothers Big Sisters program each year around 160 children benefits from having a Big Brother or Sister.

Mentoring brings about profound positive change in the way these young people feel about themselves and how they view their world. YWCA research suggests that Children with a Mentor as opposed to those without were:

* 46% less likely to begin using illegal drugs
* 27% less likely to begin using alcohol
* 53% less likely to skip school

The Quirky Kid clinic also offers a mentoring program. The Quirky Kid Mentoring Program is a dynamic non-judgemental and responsive mentoring project providing young people with the opportunity to develop the skills to implement changes in their lives.

The unique approach of the Quirky Kid program allows greater flexibility and accountability to refer sources as it works in conjunction with therapy. We achieve outstanding results with community-based support.

Contact us for more informations.

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