What is a tween?
Tween is the term used to refer to people between the ages of 10-14 years of age. It refers to a stage of development where people are no longer children, yet not quite teenagers. Many changes often occur at this stage, which may be a source of struggle between parents and their children, particularly in relation to social skills.
Issues that parents may encounter with their tween:
- Social skills
When such issues do arise, it is not uncommon for tweens to rebel in an attempt to resist their parents’ wishes. Parents can help their tweens progress through this often confusing and difficult stage, by both appreciating and accepting their child for who they are. Moreover, while tweens may not want to discuss the issues they are experiencing with their parents; parents should encourage conversation by remaining both open minded and available.
Complimenting and praising your tween:
- While it may have once been easy to praise your child for their accomplishments, tweens often look for realistic compliments that match the way they are behaving.
- Excessive or just general praise is often seen as meaningless to tweens, as they typically become more cynical at this age, and prefer to receive realistic assessments of their achievements. This may in part be due to the fact that hormonal changes are occurring, causing tweens to become easily annoyed or more sensitive.
- To most effectively encourage your tween, make sure to explicitly praise specific behaviors as well as the processes, which led to a desired behavior.